Articles on Life and Business Coaching, Wellington, Hutt Valley

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WHEN WE MEAN TO BUT DON’T DO

The race has started to get all those last-minute things done we have been meaning to do before the end of the year! This seems to happen this time every year.

What would it be like if we didn’t have to run around like headless chickens trying to cram all that stuff in, we meant to do this year before the clock hits 12 on 31 December.

It would certainly make life less stressful! We might even get more done perhaps.

Most of the things we try to get done at this time of year are things we had been meaning to do during the year. When we mean or intend to do something it usually means it’s been on the list, but we never got round to it.

Converting those “meaning to’s” into reality requires planning, preparation and time specific action. However, when we boil down where we spend most of our time it will likely be working to survive in a job.

Unless we force ourselves to take time out of the rat race to focus on ourselves and what we want from life much of what we want for ourselves will never happen. Our lives slip by quickly. Nobody wants to have regrets at the end.

Committing to a coaching programme is your opportunity to convert those “”meaning to’s” into “done and dusted’s”. There is value in making a commitment to yourself and your dreams for a better life. All you need is a desire to do things differently than you have always done. Your comfort zone is not your friend. Life really begins outside this zone. It may not be easy. It will require courage, but it will be worth it.

BUSINESS SUCCESS

If you are in business and want to make 2025 the best year you have ever had then you will need to examine:

Your Mindset: if you believe you can – you will and if you believe you can’t – you won’t. This is often the most neglected part of business. We bring ourselves into everything we do. Are we holding ourselves back?

Your Marketing: this is the oxygen for your business. It influences, persuades and is a service. How can you make that more effective and reach more potential customers?

Creating Momentum: how do you make your success sustainable? Remember small hinges swing big doors! Small consistent progress will help you go the distance.

Our business coaching courses can help you to take the time out from your busy days to focus on yourself and your business direction. It also provides accountability for making sure you do what you say you are going to do.

PURPOSE

What guides our lives is our purpose. This is something that keeps us on a mission even if we are unsure where we are heading. It’s easy to forget to live on purpose when we get caught up in our daily lives. We can get stuck in our jobs and daily routines and our purposes gets put to one side. Yet we have that nagging feeling that there must be more to life than the 9 to 5 drudge!

Deep down we know that we are meant for more. When we ignore that feeling and continue to live life out of alignment with our purpose, we can feel lacking in energy, it can affect our relationships and drain our joy of life.

So, what’s your purpose? What do you want to spend time on every day? When do you want to move from making a living to making a life worth living?

Our coaching programmes can help you to get clarity on your purpose.

IN TIME

As humans we have always been fascinated with the idea of time. There is the practical aspect of time such as how many hours there are in the day and what you can fit into those hours. Then there are the ideas of past and future time. It has been said that time is illusory because the only time we have is right now and that what happened in the past stays there and what may happen in the future has not yet happened. However, we can run into problems when we bring past or future time into our present time. The former can bring guilt, shame, and grief and the latter fear, worry and stress. If we spend much of our present time occupied with past or future time, we can miss out on life right now and the opportunities it brings with it.

REGRET IS HEAVY

Imagine you are 98 years old and about to die and you have regrets about not living to your full potential. What could you do today to avoid having those regrets?

The truth is you already know what those regrets will be so why not do something today to solve those. We can have so many “I should of” moments in life. Why not make the decision today to change at least one of those moments into an I will moment? Make a plan to avoid your regret

How would that change your life for the better?

THE FEEDBACK LOOP

“Sow a thought, reap an action, sow an action, reap a habit, sow a habit reap a character, sow a character reap a destiny”
Anonymous

THE LOOP

Events + data (information) = truth (meaning) + thoughts + emotions + actions = results which produce events:

No result (event) can occur without some form of action being taken.

No action can be taken without an emotional driver.
Most emotions are generated by a prior thought (NB body/chemical impacts).
Many of our thoughts comprise unconscious thinking patterns that have been generated as a consequence of what we believe about life (our filter of perspective or personal truths).
Our personal truths are the unique meanings we have attributed to what we have experienced in life so far (events).
Poor information in = poor results

AUTHENTICITY

Authenticity is knowing who you are and being brave enough to live it.

What is authenticity and what does to be authentic mean?

Words and labels are only guides, however for me being authentic means living my truth. It’s making choices about who I want to be and what I want to do with my life at any given moment.

When you engage in coaching you will learn that many of the decisions, you had made and continue to make in life have been influenced by beliefs, patterns, and habits which were ingrained into you at a very early age.

If that is the case, then who or what is steering your ship as you sail through your life’s journey. Coaching will give you clarity on this and help you to grab back control of the wheel of your ship and to chart a new authentic course for your future.

Interested? Click here if you would like to know what coaching can do for you.